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Home Resources Estate Planning Preventing Family Feuds After Power of Attorney

Preventing Family Feuds After Power of Attorney

Gaining power of attorney of an elderly parent means families need to work together to care for their loved ones to manage the situation with as little stress as possible.

Emily Crowley

Updated July 4, 2022 | Written by Emily Crowley
Reviewed by Susan Chai, Esq.

The aging trend of our generation is for seniors to age in place. After Power of Attorney is granted, care of the loved one is left to the family rather than a facility. Most families have the best intentions. However, even strong bonds and loving relationships can become strained when big decisions, such as who will have power of attorney, have to be made.

A family feud can quickly ensue due to feelings of loss of control. To some, once power of attorney has been handed over to a brother or sister, they may feel a sense of rejection or insult, as if they were considered untrustworthy. Here are three common issues that can result in interfamilial strife, along with tips on avoiding them.

Suggested Read: How to Get Power of Attorney for an Elderly Parent or Loved Ones

Team Spirit vs. Sibling Rivalry

Sibling rivalry is a feature, to varying degrees, in practically every family with multiple children. Once the decision has been made to become caregivers for parents, sibling relationships must shift, leaving behind the old challenges.

Brothers and sisters must recognize that although they share the same parent, their relationships with that parent are each unique. This means they each have something different to offer, a particular strength to add to the care recipe. They must forego the temptation to wear the “old comfortable shoe” of feeling that another was more “loved” by the parent.

To avoid the old sibling rivalry game, recognize that caring for an aging parent must become a team effort, regardless of who holds an empowering legal document. In some cases, care is a 24/7 job. Siblings need to work together, assuming new roles that take advantage of their strengths.

There will be lots of household routines that you must continue – transportation needs, social interaction voids to fill, medication monitoring, and physical therapy.

Once the decision has been made on who will be named as having power of attorney, remember, that is just a necessary legal formality. It does not mean that sibling is the only person the parent wants to be involved in their care.

It is only one aspect of a complicated situation, and that child has been selected for that particular job. So come together as a team and designate the shared responsibilities so everyone realizes they are needed.

You may need an additional Medical Power of Attorney if you or someone you know is getting older and are concerned about health, traveling overseas for an extended period, participating in extreme sports, or have a high-risk profession.

Suggested read: Who Can Override a Power of Attorney?

Meetings & Journaling

To reduce the possibility of misunderstandings, arrange family meetings on a routine basis. The days following a doctor’s visit are the perfect time to plan a family meeting. Avoid confusion and arguments by creating a printed schedule for each family member attending. This keeps the meeting focused. It could be something as simple as a list of updates and ideas:

  • Share results and recommendations of physician’s examination.
  • Explain physical therapy exercises and tips to encourage participation.
  • Discuss menu and assign shopping duty.
  • Organize social activities and transportation.

Create a caregiving journal for all to use. It will record up-to-date information regarding care with a personal touch that can keep a family connected. Entries can be technical, recording things like blood pressure, or they can be personal, such as a funny anecdote of something the parent did or said. When other siblings see that all are doing their fair share with great care, a journal can go a long way as a communication resource and tool.

Inclusion

Inclusion is key to avoiding strife once power of attorney has been decided. Create a caregiving plan that has the element of inclusion in its design.

By reassuring all siblings that they matter. Their involvement is desired, and their concerns will be heard, much is done to alleviate the responses of suspicion and resentment that can lead to family feuds.

Reassurance that the power of attorney selection was not a family take-over is what other siblings need. This reassurance needs to be more than words; it needs to be seen and felt by the sibling holding power of attorney. If you have this power, purposely reach out to include all brothers and sisters in the opportunity to participate in the care of your shared loved one.

Emily Crowley

Emily Crowley

Estate Planning Editor

Emily Crowley is a staff writer at Legal Templates. Her background in nonprofit motivates her to improve access to legal advice in underserved groups, especially in end-of-life wishes and estate...

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